Dear 20-year-old JaVaughnae:

You’re probably chilling in the RHA Center procrastinating on a paper for your Media Law class that you waited to write the night before it was due, but you thrive off the pressure of deadlines! Lol Girl, that habit of procrastination will catch up to you one day. I write this letter while taking a break from editing photos. It’s funny how life puts everything in perspective when you don’t focus your attention on the things you can’t control and dedicate your time and energy to he things you can control that make you a stronger and better person every day.

As I leave my twenties, I wanted to share with you some things that will help you navigate this thing called life:

If there is one thing that I could stress it is to BELIEVE in the beauty of your dreams and don’t let fear hold you back. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have all the answers and no textbook, college lecture, or devotional book is going to thoroughly, prepare you for this thing called life. But don’t deprive yourself of opportunities just because of fear of the unknown and the outcome of stepping out on faith my surprise you. So give yourself a chance, remember you’re worth it. Embrace the unknown with arms wide open because girl you have no idea where this thing called life will take you. I know when you were younger you mapped out in your head a detailed plan for your life but I’m here to tell you that plans change. Just keep it moving forward, and don’t grow weary when they do.  Remember it’s just a life guide, and when change does happen learn to embrace it with arms wide open. 

If there is one saying that I want you to keep on a sticky note when the journey gets tough it would be “don’t stop just keep going!” Don’t let tough times and failures blur your dreams or goals. You can accomplish anything you set your mind too, and girl doesn’t be afraid to ask for advice when it comes to this thing called life. Remember you don’t have all the answers and please know that some problems you’re dealing with others have dealt with them before! So when the weight of the world begins to burden you, don’t let it! Remember you were built for this and there is nothing in life that can break you. God has your back in good times and bad times.

Don’t be afraid to embrace what makes you different! Celebrate yourself in every way you can. You’re beautiful and never forget that. Never dim your Black Girl Magic…forever keep that light bright and glowing. The world needs your strength, your vision, and your perspective.

Oh yeah dad was right even though you have been athletic your entire life and could eat whatever you wanted to those bad eating habits will catch up to you, I promise you that. So please take care of yourself and implement an exercise regimen. I can’t stress the importance of taking care of your health physically and mentally.

And the last thing I want to leave you with is that time waits for no one so enjoy the moments that matter the most in life no matter how little those moments may be. Make every moment count in life because when you get older and look back those memories will matter the most. So make them count girl! So take a deep breath and relax! And make time for those special moments and enjoy the journey!

Peace, Love and Blessings!





Photography by Kianna Mitchell
Photography by Kianna Mitchell


Photography by Kianna Mitchell




2 Comments on Letter to My Younger Self

  1. R. Alexandria
    27 February, 2018 at 12:19 pm (3 weeks ago)

    Good advice! Can’t wait to hear what you’ll say to your 30-year-old self lol

    • Jnmalone
      27 February, 2018 at 12:24 pm (3 weeks ago)

      Thanks…It shall be interesting!!


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